Category: Circling

What do you desperately hunger for and can never get enough? (Use this answer to design an intoxicatingly addicting “game” for yourself to play)

My buddy Dane Maxwell posted this question on facebook the other day and it got me to stop and think about what I really crave most in life…

What do you desperately yearn and hunger for… and can never get enough?

For me, the answer was:

Deep connection.

Deep, rich, and expansive connection.

Now, here’s where I took it one step deeper…

If I know that THIS is the very thing that my soul craves the most, how do I setup a game for myself where I can have more and more of this in my life?

And how different would my life be if I actually designed it around having more of this in my life?

(Turns out I’ve already been doing it!)

And let me tell you, my life’s been really fucking awesome.

It’s full of amazingly deep, rich and expansive connections with women, friends, clients, and even acquaintances.

So I want to invite you to do the same thing

Step 1) Answer this question:

What do you deeply crave and hunger for… and can never get enough of?

Step 2) Design your life around it by asking yourself a second question:

How can I create an intoxicatingly addicting “game” for myself to play that will give me more and more of this?

If I can create an environment where I get all of this AND it serves my sense of personal freedom around expressing the fullness of who I am, sharing my authentic gifts and ways in which I like to love, AND it makes me money too – then that’s just fucking beautiful.

When all of this is aligned and reinforcing everything together – in a way where “all serves all” – it truly becomes an “addicting game” that I LOVE to play.

Note: this idea of setting up your life in a way where “all serves all” is a concept that I got from another close friend and mentor of mine – Spencer Burnett.

Awesome guy and deep soul brother. Check him out at spencerburnett.com

I choose expansion…

This originally started as a note on my iPhone to myself about how I “should” do certain things in order to grow my business.

However, I noticed that my language and word choice wasn’t serving me – and made the whole process feel heavy – so I quickly reframed my long list of “shoulds” into positive and empowering statements that actually inspire me

This was a real-time application of something that I talked about in another blog post that I wrote here

Here’s what I came up with (as you read through it, see how you can apply this type of conscious language choice in your life and business goals as well)

I choose to create a big, strong and compelling vision around the change that I want to see in the world

I choose to attract a group of people who share a similar vision in life and want to help spread the change that we both want to see in the world (collaborators and cause partners)

I choose to attract a team of people who see and believe in the depth of my genius and trust that it would do great things if fully harnessed, channelled and delivered (both for us and for the world)

I choose to attract a team of people who have a complimentary genius (and want to work together to do great things in the world)

It feels really empowering to go back and read that.

In fact, I already see a lot of it happening.

(And I just wrote these intentions a few days ago)

I think a lot of it has to do with the very intentional language I used.

This post originally started out with a bunch of statements around how I need to do all these things that I was feeling like I was “behind” on doing – and that started to create a feeling of dread.

Then, once I reframed it, it actually started to feel like a pleasant and empowering possibility for myself.

Now that I look back at it, I realize that I’ve been taking positive actions towards these statements without having to use any conscious “will” or “force”

It just feels like the natural course of action now.

And I think it’s because that’s what my subconscious mind has been processing and working on, after I had properly directed it.

If there’s a certain area of your life that you’d like to achieve more in, or that you’re feeling stuck about, make sure you pay close attention to the way you use your language around it.

Sometimes, a simple yet powerful shift in your language is all you really need to get yourself to flowing on a more positive trajectory.

I talk more about that in the blog I wrote here, as well as how to reframe your challenges into positive constructive statements that you can use to create your life in the most effective way possible

To learn more about how to do that, just click here