What loving you means to me…

This is a beautiful post by Daniel Schmachtenberger.

And I wanted to share with you here, on my blog.

It started as a post on facebook titled:

What does it mean when I say I love you?

First, it means that I see you. I see the feeling, experiencing being that you are. I see your sensitivity, and your strength. I see your irreplaceable uniqueness: there has never been nor will there ever be another one like you. What possible price tag could be put on something infinitely rare?

I see your goodness, underneath and through all your actions…even the misguided and hurting ones. I see your deepest yearnings, and the absolute innocence that you truly are.

And I want to see you. Your light and your shadow…your beauty, and the parts you have yet to find the beauty in. Your attractions and repulsions…your feelings, desires, thoughts, emotions…all threads in the tapestry that you are…all with a purpose to serve. I want to know you, in your depth and fullness and realness… Not a fantasy that I make up and project on you, then punish you for not being. If I want to play with a fantasy, I can do that on my own. I will not punish you for being honest.

And I want to see you as you are now, in this moment as you change and grow. I have never seen you before – the you of this moment. So I will not pretend that I have and risk missing reality.

If I want something from you, I see everything you do and say for how it affects me. So I really only see me, and you become a commodity. That is not what love means to me. So I seek to see you for you—the unique expression of life that you are – independent of me.

I seek to know you as you are, that I may love you as that.

Next, it means that I want for you. Everything beautiful and enriching…everything positive that you want for yourself… I delight in your happiness and celebrate everything that brings you joy!

I know I don’t need anything from you…so I am free to want for you congruently. I appreciate you as fully I can…appreciate all that you freely give. My life is enriched by it forever. And you – this moment – is so precious… I want to be with it fully…so there is no part of me left to make up stories about the future. Can I open myself to receive your beauty in the depths of my being, without expecting to receive it again? I work at it. Because as I succeed, I am honored each time you share with me…and happy to see your life, wherever it takes you otherwise. In your precious short time here, I don’t want to let my insecurities be the reason you missed experiencing something beautiful.

At your depth, you are the One I have always loved, in a form so uniquely precious and ephemeral… I am blessed to simply see you…if I can support you in some way, on this journey through yourself you are taking….that is why I am here.

Do I always succeed at loving like this? No, I fail often…and put expectations on you, think I know you already, try to change you…. I just no longer call that love.

 

https://www.facebook.com/notes/daniel-schmachtenberger/what-loving-you-means-to-me/495070270212

 

 

I choose expansion…

This originally started as a note on my iPhone to myself about how I “should” do certain things in order to grow my business.

However, I noticed that my language and word choice wasn’t serving me – and made the whole process feel heavy – so I quickly reframed my long list of “shoulds” into positive and empowering statements that actually inspire me

This was a real-time application of something that I talked about in another blog post that I wrote here

Here’s what I came up with (as you read through it, see how you can apply this type of conscious language choice in your life and business goals as well)

I choose to create a big, strong and compelling vision around the change that I want to see in the world

I choose to attract a group of people who share a similar vision in life and want to help spread the change that we both want to see in the world (collaborators and cause partners)

I choose to attract a team of people who see and believe in the depth of my genius and trust that it would do great things if fully harnessed, channelled and delivered (both for us and for the world)

I choose to attract a team of people who have a complimentary genius (and want to work together to do great things in the world)

It feels really empowering to go back and read that.

In fact, I already see a lot of it happening.

(And I just wrote these intentions a few days ago)

I think a lot of it has to do with the very intentional language I used.

This post originally started out with a bunch of statements around how I need to do all these things that I was feeling like I was “behind” on doing – and that started to create a feeling of dread.

Then, once I reframed it, it actually started to feel like a pleasant and empowering possibility for myself.

Now that I look back at it, I realize that I’ve been taking positive actions towards these statements without having to use any conscious “will” or “force”

It just feels like the natural course of action now.

And I think it’s because that’s what my subconscious mind has been processing and working on, after I had properly directed it.

If there’s a certain area of your life that you’d like to achieve more in, or that you’re feeling stuck about, make sure you pay close attention to the way you use your language around it.

Sometimes, a simple yet powerful shift in your language is all you really need to get yourself to flowing on a more positive trajectory.

I talk more about that in the blog I wrote here, as well as how to reframe your challenges into positive constructive statements that you can use to create your life in the most effective way possible

To learn more about how to do that, just click here