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Gratitude is a form of intimacy with God.

My spin on a recent quote by Danielle Laporte.

Safety and Purity are the saving grace of love.

They do not sound very cool or sexy, and yet they are so important.

If you truly meditate on them and see how the presence of these two things can absolve your relationship of so much if it’s issues, you will soon realize that these are two of the most highly underrated qualities when it comes to Love.

I feel like I am living my creations, and my creations are living me.

It’s a deeply interconnected cycle that I am incubating in and cooking in, around the clock, with constantly new and emerging ideas and insights that add powerful dimensions to both new and existing concepts and models, that I have been digesting, integrating and building upon for years now.

I feel like I am assembling and piecing together an intricate tapestry of transformation that I am bringing forth. And I see how it’s all interconnected as it is being birthed in me, and through me. And I can see how it will expand human consciousness in significant ways, as soon as it becomes a witness to it.

And you want to know the best part about it all?

The best part is that I am connected to the transformation that it is already evoking, and will continue evoking, across ripples in time. In the here and now. And I am deriving so much joy and satisfaction in the process. With total trust and surrender to the process as it unfolds. I will continue to bear witness to all of it as it comes through me, and I will be able to enjoy the fruits of it just as much then, as I am now, in the creation of it.

#QuantumCreation #3DTIME #RealityMapping #AscensionCodes #ConsciousnessHacking #Interconnectedness

See the giving in your living.

I did that tonight and I have been overflowing in gratitude, self-love, appreciation and abundance.

I sent two of my best friends a voice note with some of my reflections around this, and ended up crying and/or on the verge of tears in both of them.

I can’t reflect all the same details that I shared in these messages here but here’s a quick recap of what happened to evoke such a high vibrational state of gratitude in me (as well as what you can do in order to do the same)

Hint: it has to do with seeing the giving in your living and how you are expanding the lives of the people around you simply by being you.

Context: I was up super late tonight (till 3:45 am) working on my creations after I hit a flow of inspiration. And then I ended up in conversation with my best friend, Dmitriy Kozlov while he’s in the phillipines on one of his last nights before coming home.

I was reflecting on the last few years of my journey and how each and every experience has shaped and inspired this flow of creation in me, as well as how my daily actions, values, commitments and choices continue to ripple out into the world, serving both through my friends and my loved ones, my roommates, my partners (past and present), my community, my family, and the world at large.

I’m just seeing the impact that my being has on people’s lives and it astounds me. Like holy shit. I am getting really present to the actual difference that I am making just through living and it is mindblowing. Outside of anything that I do in my career. I’m just talking about life right now. Wow.

Look at your life today and take in all the giving in your living. Take in how your presence is impacting the people around you. Take in how your very being is furthering the evolution of love, truth and consciousness in those around you. Holy shit. What a gift you make just by living and being you. Wow. Celebrate yourself. And share some of that celebration with me here too, if you’d like.

Kevin

I’m not sure what’s better… the marketing angle of this article or the beautiful and powerful message within it. Or the fact that it’s masterfully both.

#WhiteMagicMarketing

The headline is catchy and genius in that it stimulates curiosity and intrigue, by building on and contrasting a very common and core preconception that we all have.

While the subtitle is very effective in making women feel like they have room to grow and learn around this, and tactfully and subtly triggering enough of a feeling of “lack” to get their attention and inspire them to learn.

And then the best part about all of it is that this article actually successfully delivers on the ONE thing that men want more than sex.

As a man, I can certainly attest that this is true.

This article does a beautiful job of articulating what this one thing is, as well as the paradoxical challenges that a lot of men have in owning and admitting it (and that so many women subconsciously feel and have around giving it too)

It does a great job at illuminating just how difficult and risky it can be for both genders, because it can potentially fuck with the polarity and the perception that we each hold around masculinity and femininity and this whole dance that we are doing as humans. So fun and humbling.

I think it was Annie Lalla who once said “Love is the great equalizer”

We all start from ground zero.

With our immediate family system as our first (and most deeply embodied, entrained and entrenched) schooling.

And then we have our own trial and error experiences, as we attempt to individuate and walk on our own. And then our friends and family come in to help us “course correct”

And then if we’re lucky, we find some books, guides, courses, teachers, courses and mentors to hopefully guide us in how to be able to do it a little more intelligently.

Add in some more trial and error, with slightly more information and tools, as we keep on sculpting away at this beautifully rich and rewarding (and often painful and paradoxical) journey called Love.

I hope this article adds more dimension and texture to your experience.

If anyone feels called to comment and add more layers, reflections, textures and distinctions to what this has brought up for you – I am always happy to play. And would love to join you in the endless reflection, sculpting and learning, as I’m sure it would only further sculpt my own understanding of love as well.

In Undying Devotion to Love Herself,

Kevin

Love self, to love other.

Rinse. Wash. Repeat.

Maybe I’ll learn this one for good this time 😉

#HumbleSauce

I’ve never thought it necessary to have to love oneself in order to be able to love another…

My own personal experience has led me to this knowing, it is actually possible to love another totally and utterly, unconditionally without having ever been taught to love oneself…

It is not as free or liberated but it is still love of another although it is absolutely sprinkled with moments of fear of abandonment…

There are also cultures in the world that do not teach Self Love while they teach absolute and utter devotion to the partner, this exists, it is common, it is possible to love another so deeply without loving oneself…

To love oneself is an absolute treasure, a must in order to be liberated from the suffering of needing to feel worthy, validated, or visible by means of another person having to say yes you matter…

I do believe it is necessary to love oneself in order to achieve an absolute versus a relative type happiness that resides deep within and can be tapped into and harnessed even through the worst of times…

The Self Love journey is the most priceless of all…

❤

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We are approaching a period of time when relationships are ready to go through a major redesign. The current paradigm isn’t working. People are unsatisfied in love; people don’t know how to make relationships work.

And, believe it or not, this isn’t a bad thing. Because when systems break-down, that’s when they change. I believe that’s what’s happening in the area of intimate partnership. The break-down is forcing us to move towards conscious love.

So what exactly is a conscious relationship?

It’s a romantic relationship in which both partners feel committed to a sense of purpose, and that purpose is growth. Individual growth. Collective growth as a couple. Growth that makes the world a better place.

As of now, most people get into relationships to satisfy their own personal needs. This might work for a few years, but eventually the relationship fails us, and we end up unsatisfied as a result.

But when two people come together with the intention of growth, the relationship strives towards something much greater than gratification. The partnership becomes a journey of evolution, and the two individuals have an opportunity to expand more than they could alone. Deep satisfaction and long-term fulfillment arise as a result.

So if you’re someone who feels called to take your experience of romantic love to the next level, below are four qualities that characterize what being a conscious couple is all about. Welcome to the path of the conscious relationship. This is next-level love …

1. The conscious couple is not attached to the outcome of the relationship – growth comes first.

Not being attached to the outcome of the relationship does not mean you don’t care what happens! It also doesn’t mean that you don’t have fantasies about how the relationship will turn out.

What it means is: you’re more committed to the experience of growth than you are to making the relationship “work.”

The reality is, we’re here to grow. Physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. When growth stops, we automatically feel like something’s gone wrong. Because it has. Without growth, we aren’t fulfilling our soul’s purpose.

Unfortunately, relationships today tend to stifle growth more than enhance it. This is one of the main reasons we’re failing at romantic love.

We want our partners to act in a certain way, we repress ourselves to please others, and soon enough, we feel small, oppressed and puzzled about who we’ve become. This, inevitably, makes the relationship feel like a cage that we want to break out of. But the unfortunate truth is: we’ve caged ourselves.

The conscious couple values growth more than anything else because they know this is the secret to keeping the relationship alive. Even though growth is scary (because it takes us into the unknown), the couple is willing to strive towards expansion, even at the risk of out-growing the relationship. Because of this, the relationship maintains a natural feeling of aliveness, and love between the couple does, too.

2. Each person in the relationship is committed to owning their s#*t.

Conscious couples know that we all have wounds from the past, and they understand that these wounds will inevitably be triggered, especially in a relationship. In other words, they expect to feel abandoned, trapped, rejected, overlooked and any other shitty feeling that arises when we bond closely with another person.

Most of us still believe that relationships should only feel good, and when bad feelings surface, something has gone terribly wrong. What we fail to see in this situation is that these shitty feelings stem from our own faulty patterning! These issues are not caused by our partners; they’re caused by our beliefs.

The conscious couple is willing to look at their past and current issues in relationships because they know that by facing these beliefs systems, they can evolve into a new relationship-reality. Dysfunctional patterns will dissolve, but only when we take responsibility for them, first.

3. All feelings are welcome and no internal process is condemned.

In a conscious relationship, there’s room to feel anything. Not only that, there’s room to express those feelings and fantasies to your partner. This is edgy territory… it’s not easy to do. But it’s also one of the most healing things we can experience in a partnership

It’s rare to be completely honest about who you are, and to stretch yourself to let your partner do the same. You may not like what you hear; in fact, it may trigger the hell out of you. But you’re willing to be triggered if it means your partner can be authentic.

Like I already said, we’re used to molding and changing ourselves to please people we love because we don’t want them to stop loving us! This stifles the love out of our connections.

The only option is radical honesty: revealing parts of ourselves that are hard to share, and letting our partners do the same. This leads to feeling known, seen and truly understood — a combination that will automatically enhance your love.

4. The relationship is a place to practice love.

Love, ultimately, is a practice. A practice of acceptance, being present, forgiveness, and stretching your heart into vulnerable territories.

Sometimes we treat love like it’s a destination. We want that peak feeling all the time, and when it’s not there, we’re not satisfied with what the relationship has become. In my mind, this is missing the whole point of love.

Love is a journey and an exploration. It’s showing up for all varied nuances of your relationship and asking yourself, What would love do here?” The answer will be different every time, and because of this, you’ll get to grow in ways you never have before!

The conscious couple is fiercely committed to being the embodiment of love. And through their devotion and practice, love shows up in their lives and relationship in ways they would’ve never imagined before.~~

~ Shelly Bullard ~

 

My friend Daniel Schmatenberger posted this on facebook earlier today:

A message I sent to a friend today – maybe relevant to some other people pursuing their life work in the personal development space:

“Personal branding is usually problematic. It turns a being into a brand. That brand will never match the actual being perfectly. The brand as a business, will optimize itself based on clicks and conversion rates. If successful, it will become a conversion optimized persona. Then the actual living person associated with that persona will feel a pressure to act like it. The difference between the person and the persona generally becomes increasingly more dissonant and painful. Especially if the brand is around coaching or personal development or life-style design. Because you will be torn between selling the persona (that converts or that you think will convert, ie, ‘having it all’, etc) as the success case of what you are selling…and being an authentic person.

If coaching is your work, share the methodology. Share the insights and principles. And you can share some personal stories of how these principles have been useful to you. But don’t become the image of success personally. It is almost certain to lead to suffering and limiting real success. Emphasize the message you want to share more than the messenger. And like with any industry, focus on getting the product (messages/ teachings/ etc) to have real and novel value – then work on marketing in service to that. “

My response:

I like where you’re going with this. i think it is more problematic if your personal brand is your ONLY brand/business/means of success and you are relying on persona/marketability for sales.

for me, though, my personal brand that i am birthing is birthed out of a desire to be an open platform for the unfolding expression that is me, that lives separate from my main business in the publishing/coaching/relationship/breakup space – where i am more strategic in what i am selling. and then my personal brand is a more pure and unfolding expression that is fitly named “kevininspires”, based on the premise that it is a place that i go to create, only when i am inspired, and in-spirit, and am genuinely wanting to share something authentic that is flowing through me in my own contemplations through my individual journey through life, rather than a market-based response strategy.

now in that personal brand, i am still highlighting whatever success i may have generated as an entrepreneur as one marker of my identity, thus giving rise to me having the permission/authority to have a personal brand to begin with, however, i am being mindful of it not becoming its own cage for me, as the whole goal is the unfolding authenticity, and yet, i too can see how it can become limiting if not careful. but it was designed with that in mind and so i feel confident. i feel called to share this just to propose an alternative perspective to what you are presenting (which is often very true). hence why you said “usually” problematic, and didnt speak in absolutes 😉

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I feel like I am living my creations, and my creations are living me.

It’s a deeply interconnected cycle that I am incubating in and cooking in, around the clock, with constantly new and emerging ideas and insights that add powerful dimensions to both new and existing concepts and models, that I have been digesting, integrating and building upon for years now.

I feel like I am assembling and piecing together an intricate tapestry of transformation that I am bringing forth. And I see how it’s all interconnected as it is being birthed in me, and through me. And I can see how it will expand human consciousness in significant ways, as soon as it becomes a witness to it.

And you want to know the best part about it all?

The best part is that I am connected to the transformation that it is already evoking, and will continue evoking, across ripples in time. In the here and now. And I am deriving so much joy and satisfaction in the process. With total trust and surrender to the process as it unfolds. I will continue to bear witness to all of it as it comes through me, and I will be able to enjoy the fruits of it just as much then, as I am now, in the creation of it.

#QuantumCreation #3DTIME #RealityMapping #AscensionCodes #ConsciousnessHacking #Interconnectedness

Seeing “Chaos” From A Cosmic Perspective

Divine Dissaray

Chaos vs Graduation to the next level

One way fear manifests is through our need to control our life (as our breathing becomes shallow)

the more we feel and allow the fear, the more we let go into the embrace fof the cosmos and the more we realize how deeply we are held and protected by it

in order to evolve, a human being must embrace chaos rather than try to protect against it

every time we stop trusting in life and believe in our fears, we begin to co-create the vibration of cahos

if you are not continaully transcending you are dying

life itself is designed to transcend its own initla programming and discove rnew and higher forms of consciousness

true optimism is the dynamic energy at the heart of creation

In order to mutate life to a higher order, you must integrate and synethize