Category: Relationships

How A Conscious Man Commits…

It doesn’t feel authentic for me to commit exclusively to any one woman unless I feel that she is absolutely the right woman for me.

In order for me to do that, I need to take the time to really get to know a woman.

And I also need time to truly get to know myself as a man.

To see how I relate with others, to tune into what feels good to me, and to feel into what it is that I most want and need as a man.

And right now, I am taking the time to do that.

I am taking the time to date and meet multiple women in order to see what feels best for me as a man, at this stage in my life.

I have been in very serious and committed monogamous relationships before and they have taught me a lot about myself, about love, and about life.

Of the many things I’ve learned, I’ve learned how I am with commitment (and how much I value upholding a woman’s trust and respect

I find it to be one of the most fundamental things to a relationship and I have witnessed first hand what a detrimental experience it is to be with a woman who does not trust you. And sometimes it’s not for any reason other than men in the past who have betrayed her trust. By not being honest with her.)

I know how I am with commitment and I know what a pristine level of integrity I uphold in my behavior when I truly commit to someone

And because I know that, I also know that I don’t want to do that unless I feel like it’s someone that is truly right for me on all levels

But in the meantime, I am willing to commit my full presence to you anytime that I’m with you. I commit to sharing my full heart with you anytime that we’re together. And also when we are not.

Anything that you ask with a pure and honest heart, I will answer.

I will communicate with you openly and always let you know where I stand.

You’ll never have to worry about me or what I’m thinking or feeling.

I will offer that up to you wholeheartedly, in the interest of having an honest and loving relationship with you.

I commit to being fully in tune with myself, with you, with us, and with our connection as it unfolds organically.

This is what I am most interested in

How our connection unfolds organically when we are not trying to force it or guide it to be anything other than whatever it is wanting to be – moment by moment

This is not how I’ve created connections and commitments with women before, despite desperately wanting it to be that way

Instead, I have done it from a place of pressure or obligation – knowing/fearing that she’s not going to care to stick around unless she gets that level of commitment and security

I am not interested in women that need that false sense of security in order to assuage her fears and worries or attempt to get some semblance of control over her future.

I am only interested in a woman who trusts and values herself enough to know that what she has to offer is inherently valuable in and of itself, and that she doesn’t need to rope me into an exclusive agreement with her in order to get my full attention and presence.

There is no need to do that, because I already offer it to you.

I also know what it feels like for me when I enter this type of agreement just to please or appease a woman (read: comply vs choose)

I find that when I enter an exclusive relationship commitment to just one woman, I give up a lot of my power and freedom – and most importantly – my ability to choose.

So if I choose just one woman, and truly decide to choose her, moment by moment, I want to take my time and be absolutely certain that I am making the right choice.

If I enter any agreement with a woman from any place that feels like anything other than me making a powerful choice for what I truly feel is best for me right now, we will eventually both grow to regret it

I have done this before and I know what it leads to.

And what I can say is this: neither of us really needs to be subjected to the type of experience that type of agreement will bring into our life.

I would rather relate with you in real-time, separate from any assumptions expectations or projections, and see how enjoyable and compatible we are as lovers.

And if through doing so, we find that we’re not compatible, we can discontinue seeing each other from a place of love and mutual respect (instead of having a whole slew of emotions arise from the deep level of disappointment that we’d feel after getting heavily involved and invested in something too prematurely, without taking the proper time to really feel a person out and see if it’s a good long-term fit).

People are always showing you who they are, all you have to do is pay attention

This has been my life mantra for the past year, and it’s made a world of a difference in my own personal life (as well as in work and business)

“People are always showing you who they are, all you have to do is pay attention“

People have always told me that I have an incredibly astute judge of character, but living by this statement has made a WORLD of a difference.

In fact, it deepened what was already a strength ten-fold.

It’s allowed me to date and love FAR more intelligently (and see people for who and how they really are within a relatively short period of time)

AND it’s also saved me from going into several working relationships that would have ended poorly.

I invite you to try out this idea in your own life and see if it helps you in navigating through the world.

Here’s another variation that has served me in navigating life, in a larger and broader sense:

“Life is always giving you exactly what you need… all you have to do is simply pay attention”

Seriously.

Just pay attention.

Be mindful and aware.

And just pay attention.

It’s all here. Right now.

You are unconditionally supported by life.

Wrapped in the prevailing wisdom and safety of love.

Gently ascending upwards.

As soon as you allow yourself to see it

Written with immense love,

Kevin

 

I choose expansion…

This originally started as a note on my iPhone to myself about how I “should” do certain things in order to grow my business.

However, I noticed that my language and word choice wasn’t serving me – and made the whole process feel heavy – so I quickly reframed my long list of “shoulds” into positive and empowering statements that actually inspire me

This was a real-time application of something that I talked about in another blog post that I wrote here

Here’s what I came up with (as you read through it, see how you can apply this type of conscious language choice in your life and business goals as well)

I choose to create a big, strong and compelling vision around the change that I want to see in the world

I choose to attract a group of people who share a similar vision in life and want to help spread the change that we both want to see in the world (collaborators and cause partners)

I choose to attract a team of people who see and believe in the depth of my genius and trust that it would do great things if fully harnessed, channelled and delivered (both for us and for the world)

I choose to attract a team of people who have a complimentary genius (and want to work together to do great things in the world)

It feels really empowering to go back and read that.

In fact, I already see a lot of it happening.

(And I just wrote these intentions a few days ago)

I think a lot of it has to do with the very intentional language I used.

This post originally started out with a bunch of statements around how I need to do all these things that I was feeling like I was “behind” on doing – and that started to create a feeling of dread.

Then, once I reframed it, it actually started to feel like a pleasant and empowering possibility for myself.

Now that I look back at it, I realize that I’ve been taking positive actions towards these statements without having to use any conscious “will” or “force”

It just feels like the natural course of action now.

And I think it’s because that’s what my subconscious mind has been processing and working on, after I had properly directed it.

If there’s a certain area of your life that you’d like to achieve more in, or that you’re feeling stuck about, make sure you pay close attention to the way you use your language around it.

Sometimes, a simple yet powerful shift in your language is all you really need to get yourself to flowing on a more positive trajectory.

I talk more about that in the blog I wrote here, as well as how to reframe your challenges into positive constructive statements that you can use to create your life in the most effective way possible

To learn more about how to do that, just click here