Truth-Bomb.
Have your romantic partners been “developmentally compatible”?
If not, what can you do to ensure that they are, so that you can avoid the inevitable pitfalls of love?
If they have been developmentally compatible, how can you tell?
What advice would you give to others in finding someone who’s a soul-equal?
I figure I could just share this picture alone, like always, or I can pose a question.
So, I decided to post a question this time.
Now let me answer it this time…
For me, my last partner (and most past partners) have not been developmental equals. It was clear to me from the very beginning and yet I continued on in the relationship anyway (for many different reasons). Part of it was my own patterns. My desire to be a savior. Thinking if I could rescue a woman or show her something, that would guarantee that she would love me, and value me, and not leave me.
This did not always lead me to making the HIGHEST decisions for past partners.
Now, all the partners that I consider are “developmental equals”.
And if they’re not, it is painfully obvious to me.
The way I know this is through my intuition.
And I can usually tell very quickly.
I wish I had more specific advice on how to do that.
But the best I got for you is to simply pay attention.
Remember, people are always showing you who they are.
All you have to do is pay attention.
Ask yourself: “what does this REALLY say about them?”
Thanks 1st girlfriend who never speaks to me for this insight!
Kevin