It doesn’t feel authentic for me to commit exclusively to any one woman unless I feel that she is absolutely the right woman for me
In order for me to do that, I need to take the time to really get to know a woman.
And I also need time to truly get to know myself as a man.
To see how I relate with others, to tune into what feels good to me, and to feel into what it is that I most want and need as a man.
And right now, I am taking the time to do that.
I am taking the time to date and meet multiple women in order to see what feels best for me as a man, at this stage in my life.
I have been in very serious and committed monogamous relationships before and they have taught me a lot about myself, about love, and about life.
Of the many things I’ve learned, I’ve learned how I am with commitment (and how much I value upholding a woman’s trust and respect
I find it to be one of the most fundamental things to a relationship and I have witnessed first hand what a detrimental experience it is to be with a woman who does not trust you. And sometimes it’s not for any reason other than men in the past who have betrayed her trust. By not being honest with her.)
I know how I am with commitment and I know what a pristine level of integrity I uphold in my behavior when I truly commit to someone
And because I know that, I also know that I don’t want to do that unless I feel like it’s someone that is truly right for me on all levels
But in the meantime, I am willing to commit my full presence to you anytime that I’m with you. I commit to sharing my full heart with you anytime that we’re together. And also when we are not.
Anything that you ask with a pure and honest heart, I will answer.
I will communicate with you openly and always let you know where I stand.
You’ll never have to worry about me or what I’m thinking or feeling.
I will offer that up to you wholeheartedly, in the interest of having an honest and loving relationship with you.
I commit to being fully in tune with myself, with you, with us, and with our connection as it unfolds organically.
This is what I am most interested in
How our connection unfolds organically when we are not trying to force it or guide it to be anything other than whatever it is wanting to be – moment by moment
This is not how I’ve created connections and commitments with women before, despite desperately wanting it to be that way
Instead, I have done it from a place of pressure or obligation – knowing/fearing that she’s not going to care to stick around unless she gets that level of commitment and security
I am not interested in women that need that false sense of security in order to assuage her fears and worries or attempt to get some semblance of control over her future.
I am only interested in a woman who trusts and values herself enough to know that what she has to offer is inherently valuable in and of itself, and that she doesn’t need to rope me into an exclusive agreement with her in order to get my full attention and presence.
There is no need to do that, because I already offer it to you.
I also know what it feels like for me when I enter this type of agreement just to please or appease a woman (read: comply vs choose)
I find that when I enter an exclusive relationship commitment to just one woman, I give up a lot of my power and freedom – and most importantly – my ability to choose.
So if I choose just one woman, and truly decide to choose her, moment by moment, I want to take my time and be absolutely certain that I am making the right choice.
If I enter any agreement with a woman from any place that feels like anything other than me making a powerful choice for what I truly feel is best for me right now, we will eventually both grow to regret it
I have done this before and I know what it leads to.
And what I can say is this: neither of us really needs to be subjected to the type of experience that type of agreement will bring into our life.
I would rather relate with you in real-time, separate from any assumptions expectations or projections, and see how enjoyable and compatible we are as lovers.
And if through doing so, we find that we’re not compatible, we can discontinue seeing each other from a place of love and mutual respect (instead of having a whole slew of emotions arise from the deep level of disappointment that we’d feel after getting heavily involved and invested in something too prematurely, without taking the proper time to really feel a person out and see if it’s a good long-term fit).